- May 7, 2016
- Posted by: Dale W. Vernon
- Category: Education, Parenting
The first and most important step in improving your family life is realizing that change is inevitable and that the only way your family succeeds is when you change first. It is only by exploring who you are first that you can influence the most significant change and launch the effort to be unified in purpose. This is, after all, about a better “me” (you) for a better “we” (your family).
When you’re aligned in purpose with your family, that’s unity.
Take a deep look at yourself. Make changes where you can make the greatest impact — with yourself. Are you the parent/spouse/partner you want to be? Are you the example that you want to be setting for your children and family? How far are you willing to go for the betterment of your family? Do you know what you really want for your family? All of this is intended to be a process of self-evaluation.
Once you answer those questions, it’s time to sit down with your spouse. Share with your spouse who you think you are and ask your spouse to tell you who he or she thinks you are. Your self-evaluation may or may not be shared by your spouse, so this can be a difficult conversation. As difficult as it might sound, be completely honest — it is for the betterment of your family.
Take time to reflect on what you heard, and take active steps towards self-improvement. Start with one thing, and start today. Don’t stop there — keep talking, keep asking for help and continue to reflect. Ongoing conversations and open communication will help your personal development. And remember, this isn’t about guilt. It’s about development. It’s a journey and it will take time. Nothing happens quickly.