- October 5, 2016
- Posted by: Dale W. Vernon
- Category: Communication, Education, Parenting, Values
Want to start promoting family values in your home? Remember, no parent is perfect, but there is a way to embrace our imperfections, set an intention for our families and lead them to epic success. The secret? Know who you are by living and communicating through your values.
Shared values help define a family culture. Culture is not typically a term we hear regarding family; it is more commonly used in the context of societies, businesses, and sometimes sports teams, but families do have a culture. In this sense, “family culture” means how we are going to live our lives, what we believe in, and how we do things. Our values help us define what is important in our lives. They are the principles that guide our behavior and decision-making. The values that you cultivate in your family, and how you live those values, define your family culture. Be the example.
Having consistent and articulated core values will give your children the framework for responding to life’s challenges and for making good decisions. Core values provide your child with focus and direction. For example, if your children grow up knowing the importance of truthfulness and the value placed on it, they will be much more likely to be truthful when faced with a difficult situation. It is fair to say that your family’s values will help define your child’s character throughout his or her life.
Promoting Family Values
Whether it is intentional or not, you are instilling values in your children today that will be reflected in their decision-making for the rest of their lives. Children learn our values from not only things we say, but how we behave and how we react to various situations. Without focus and intention, some of our vices could be mistakenly perceived by our children as a value or a virtue. For example, if you want your children to have a positive attitude, but they hear you constantly complaining, then they are far more likely to be complainers themselves.
Promoting family values is an important step in creating a family culture. When you and your partner share the same values and speak with one voice, it is far more likely that your children will accept your values as their own, because the lessons you teach will be consistent, continuous, and in a common language that your children will learn to understand.
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