Before anything else, agree a better me is a better we, and go first.
Any journey has a beginning and this is yours. Together Stronger looks more deeply at you. This is, after all, about a better me for a better we, your family. It’s important to be aligned in purpose with your spouse, partner or those most involved in your family’s life. That’s unity. Ultimately, this is a process for the betterment of your family.
Where you begin:
I. Better Me for a Better We
Begin with the realization and courage to make changes where you can make the greatest impact…with yourself.
II. Spend Time in Reflection
During your time in reflection ask yourself these questions, and write your thoughts down.
- Am I the person I want to be?
- Am I the parent/spouse/partner I want to be?
- Am I the example that I want to be setting for my children and family?
- What am I willing to do and how far am I willing to go for the betterment of my family?
- What is it that I really want for my family?
III. Together Stronger
Sit down with your spouse, partner, family member or friend who knows you best and ask for their help and tell them what you want to achieve.
Focus on you:
- Share with them who you think you are and ask them to tell you who they think you are. Let them know their honesty, as difficult as it is, will be for the betterment of your family.
- Share your responses to the questions you asked in your reflection
- Listen, ask clarifying questions – don’t defend yourself, just listen and learn.
Focus on the Family:
- Share with them what you really want for your family. Ask them how they think you will get there.
- vAsk them for their help, no one does it alone.
IV. Reflect on the Feedback and Take Action
- Take the time to reflect on what you heard, not just once, but review from time to time. Once the sting of hearing a new reality goes away, you will find opportunity for self-improvement.
- Make a list of what you want to improve; start with one thing and get started today.
- Go First. Lead by – example. Remember, it’s for a better we, your family.
V. Meet again, Keep Talking, ask for Help and Continue to Reflect
- Ongoing conversations and open communication will help your development.
VI. Be Aware and Forgiving
- Don’t be hard on yourself. This isn’t about guilt but development. Remember: A better me for a better we.This is a journey and it will take time. Nothing happens quickly.
With the assistance of others anything can be achieved. Be Together Stronger.