- October 4, 2016
- Posted by: Dale W. Vernon
- Category: Communication, Education, Parenting, Self-evaluation, Values
Looking to establish some basic family values in your home? Before you can define your family values, you have to know how to articulate them.
When Monica and I first set out on our mission to overcome our common imperfections and build a better, stronger family, what really mattered to me was making sure that we could articulate the values that we shared and wanted to pass on to our children.
I felt that if we could do that, we would be well on our way to stopping the chaotic rush of family life. After all, it was shared values that brought us together in the first place.
Monica and I started dating when we were 17. We were both raised as Catholics in the Midwest in middle-class families, and we share a lot of the same beliefs and values. That’s probably a big reason why we were attracted to each other and decided to build a life together.
But we had never actually sat down and discussed who we were and what we believed in. We’d never articulated it, and if we couldn’t do that, how could we communicate our values to our children?
Basic Family Values
I don’t know whether my parents ever sat down and discussed the values that they wanted to teach me and my siblings, but I remember hearing a lot of stories from them, and from my grandparents, that spoke to the need to be honest, hard-working, and the like.
Family dinners were frequent and dinners with my grandparents were standard every weekend. I think it’s fair to say that a few decades ago, families spent more time together, if for no other reason than there weren’t that many alternatives available on weekends. There was little in the way of video games, no social media, and far fewer organized kids’ activities. We are up against far tougher competition today. If we are not intentional about communicating our values, then our children could easily adopt values that are not what we believe in.
Once Monica and I identified the values that we wanted to teach our children, we were clearly on the same page and prepared to develop a family culture built around those values. The values were something we could take action with, discuss, and share with our children. Your family can do it, too.
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